They say that every pregnancy is different, and varies from woman to woman. But, in reality, pregnancies can really vary for each woman. That is certainly the case for me. Going into this second pregnancy, I was expecting everything to be the same, or similar to, my pregnancy with Brooks. But it is different.
When I was pregnant with Brooks, I felt okay during my first trimester. I didn’t have morning sickness and I really didn’t struggle with too many food aversions. One of the worse symptoms I experienced the first time around were headaches. This time, in my first trimester, I experienced quite a bit of morning sickness and, by morning sickness, I mean “all day” sickness. I felt queasy/nauseous most of the time. I have also had some pretty intense food aversions, especially with meat and, sadly, coffee. On a positive note, I didn’t have nearly as many headaches during this pregnancy.
Okay, so I knew that I would carry differently this time, as my stomach muscles are already stretched from my first pregnancy. The first time around, I was big, but my stomach grew gradually. This time around I went from zero to pregnant belly, overnight. My stomach is just so much bigger this time around. By 8 weeks, I was wearing maternity jeans, and am quickly growing out of my tank tops, which now barely cover my belly.
When you are pregnant the first time, you are tired. You are working hard to grow a tiny human. I highly recommend taking time to rest and relax during your first pregnancy (do it while you can). During this second pregnancy, I am tired. I am also chasing an almost three-year-old around all day, with very little time to stop and breath. To make matters worse, our little one still doesn’t sleep through the night consistently, so its nearly impossible to get a good night’s sleep. One thing that hasn’t changed for me, from pregnancy to pregnancy, has been the hip and back pain.
During my first pregnancy, I experienced a great deal of swelling, pretty early on! The worst swelling occurred in my feet and my ankles. It was painful, and it was kind of gross! This time around, however, I am just not experiencing the same type of swelling. On hot days, my fingers swell, and I will have some slight swelling in my legs, but its really minimal, and probably due to those spicy chicken sandwiches I have been eating.
Emotions and Excitement
When you are pregnant the first time around, there are so many unknowns, and everything is a “first.” There is so much anticipation as you wait for the next doctor’s appointment, as you wait to feel the first baby kicks, and as you plan for your baby shower. During this second pregnancy, there just are not as many unknowns. In most cases, you know what to expect, and you know what is coming. This isn’t to say that you don’t enjoy these milestones, but there just isn’t as much anticipation during this second pregnancy. And you are most likely busier this time around, caring for another little munchkin.
At the same time, it is fun to prepare your little one for the new addition. Brooks isn’t around any other little ones, so the idea of a baby is pretty foreign to him. I have been checking out books from the library to help him understand a bit better, and I try to let him feel the baby when it moves. He isn’t really into that, just yet. But I am so excited for Brooks to have a little brother, and see how he interacts with the new baby.
Different, but equally amazing…
Yes, pregnancies vary in so many ways, but they are each so special, too. I am still just in the midst of the second trimester, so I look forward to seeing how the rest of the second trimester, and the third trimester play out as well. As I mentioned in a previous blog, I am really working hard to stay present, and enjoy the moments as they happen with this pregnancy, just as much as I did the first time around.
Check out the progression over time. It is interesting to see how growth slows down over time, and then becomes similar to the first pregnancy!