Raising A Toddler

What We Say Matters

What can I do for ya?

What we say mattersThis morning, my son ran up to my husband and said, “What can I do for ya? What can I do for ya, Daddy?” I couldn’t help but giggle. 

I’ve noticed a lot of this lately. Our little boy has adopted some pretty sweet phrases, and he uses them often:

  • Momma, I’m so proud of you. 
  • I love you so much.
  • I missed you so much.
  • Can I hug you? Can you give me a smooch?
  • Momma, are you okay?
  • Let me hold you.

Our son’s words, and his actions, made me think–how does a two year old boy come to learn such things? 

I’ll premise this by saying, many people find my husband and I to be obnoxious in how affectionate we are. We never miss a chance to exchange an “I love you,” or a kiss. We hold hands. We hug. We gross people out. But it’s genuine, and it happens, even when nobody else is around to witness it.  Our affection carries over to how we raise our son. Each and every single day he is smothered in hugs, kisses, and I love you’s. We make sure to reinforce his positive behaviors and actions, just as we correct those that are not-so-positive. 

So what is my point? 

Children are impacted by what they hear, and what they see. They really are sponges. It is so important for us to be aware of how we talk to our children because, in our interactions with them (and around them), they not only develop their sense of who they are, but they learn how to interact with the world around them. What we say matters. What we do matters. 

And it is not all positive

Just as our little boy repeats these sweet phrases, he has also adopted some not-so-positive habits of ours (mine). Recently, we noticed that he says sorry, often. It is heartbreaking, because he apologizes most when he is sad or hurt. My mom pointed out that this is something I do often…apologize, even when an apology isn’t necessary, or appropriate.

Moving forward

I am proud of our munchkin, and just how sweet and kind he is. I want to make sure that I am even more positive, and less judgemental of myself and others. We want to continue to raise this tiny human to be kind, warm and accepting of others. This is definitely something that will take work on my end (especially in the car). But I’ll be more aware, more gracious, and more positive…so that my son will grow up to do the same.  What we say matters. What we do matters. 

 

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